This can go on for a week, a month or a year depending on the bird. If you want it to become more used to you, you should hand feed it. Take its food away for 6 hours then put seeds in your hand and leave it in the cage 5-20mins or until your birds comes over to eat. This will really encourage trust with your bird. After she comes to your hand right away each time you hand feed( which can take awhile) then get some millet and hold it like I am in the picture. That way your bird has to step on your finger if she wants the millet. Do this every time you pick her up and eventually you won't need to offer millet anymore. Hope this helps!(don't let age discourage you I'm only 15 :)